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We're not finished folks - not by a long shot!

I AM NOT LOLITA!

by: Lynette Long

Mon Aug 04, 2008 at 15:59:47 PM EDT


I am not Lolita.  I will not crawl back into  bed with a party that raped me.  I will not stay in an abusive relationship because I have nowhere else to go.  I will not be placated by a pat on the head or a worthless trinket.  I will not spend the rest of my life waiting for tomorrow or listening to people tell me that today is better than yesterday.  

I am tired of being invisible in a country to which I have given so much.  I am tired of reading editorials written by men, watching male sports teams and male news anchors. I am tired of spending money adorned with images of men.  I am tired of having a government and a court of men run my life. For all their arrogance, men have not done a good job of running my country.  We are constantly at war, we ignore the least among us, a large percentage of our citizenry is poorly educated, and crimes against women and childen are at intolerable levels.  

A country run by women would be more humane, more peaceful, and more prosperous.   I am tired of waiting for my turn. I am tired of other women who are willing to wait their turn.  Our turn is now.  I will not go back to the Democratic Party.  It is not my party.  It cannot placate me with more promises.  

History proves that the Democratic Party over-promises and under-delivers. Barack Obama will be no different. The Republican Party is not my home either.  I will find a home.  I will create a home.  A home that reflects my values.  But returning to an abuser, only perpetuates abuse, and then I become complicit in the abuse.

I am not Lolita.  Howard Dean, do not expect to find me in your bed come November.
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I AM NOT LOLITA! | 35 comments
Wow!! (0.00 / 0)
Very well said. Thanks.  
The analogy is so relevant with regard to Barack Obama (0.00 / 0)
Barack Obama is a narcissist. And, as anyone who's ever come into contact with a narcissist knows, you don't stay around. You get away, as far and as fast away from a narcissist as you can. This article is one of the best I've seen for explaining Barack Obama. It's long, but it's rivetting, a definite must read.

One of the more popular posts on this site has been the one asking whether Barack Obama might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Now we have a much more scholarly analysis - by Sam Vaknin, author of the book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited". To properly represent the author's analysis and allow AW readers to make up their own minds, the analysis is published here in its entirety. The article may be long, but is definitely a worthwhile read.

Barack Obama - Narcissist or Merely Narcissistic?

By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"

Barack Obama appears to be a narcissist.

http://audacitywatch.com/?page...

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This man hopes (0.00 / 0)
I will be allowed to join you in searching for and building that new home.  For me, temporarily, it will be the Green Party.

Thanks Lynette.

Fighting for women at Partizane

I really apologize for the rating. (0.00 / 0)
But just couldn't resist!
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meanie (0.00 / 0)
;-)

Fighting for women at Partizane
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i dunno about cynthia mckinney. (0.00 / 0)
the "my candidate can beat up your candidate" slogan is pretty catchy, though.

Barack Obama's election proves that any male can grow up to be president, provided he's willing to use misogyny as a campaign strategy.
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Ooo a smack down (0.00 / 0)
You know I'm in. (See, I refrained).  

Alice left me in Wonderland.  
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Catchy (0.00 / 0)
tag line- I love it!
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check out her actual votes (0.00 / 0)
There are all kinds of rumours about McKinney.  Get fact-based and check out her actual votes during her time in Congress.  You might not always agree with her, but she has taken courageous (= outrageous to those who disagree) stands.  For the issues that matter most to me, she is a reliable, though not perfect, progressive.  Paz.

McKinney votes

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you're right. (0.00 / 0)
i liked it when they had to scurry around and request yhat her statement that the 2000 election was stolen out be stricken from the congressional record. can't leave stuff like that in there, y'know ;-)

Barack Obama's election proves that any male can grow up to be president, provided he's willing to use misogyny as a campaign strategy.
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Whao! You Tell 'em Lynette! (0.00 / 0)
Howie and Co. are gonna be mighty lonely come Nov.

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it seems (0.00 / 0)
he doesn't need us to lose, he can lose with or without us.  Is there room for a message now?  I don't think so either, to many out for their own butts, and not out for us. This is so sick, it was ours to lose, and guess what, some took it as a challenge. It seems highly unlikely that Barrack can win anymore, but Denver hasn't happened.

I'd like him to grow up, admit he wasn't ready, didn't anticipate what would happen, didn't realize his own uniqueness wouldn't be unique enough, and drop out, now, fast, he can ask to run as VP, or he can take the party down in flames, and at this time, when we need the best president we can get, we'll get John McCain? Is this even possible?  

Now that would be hope, a candidate brave and honest enough to admit that he can't win and we need a win more than we need him.  Oh, wait, that's what Hillary did when she was told by howard she wouldn't be allowed to win.  

Hillary - alternative energy

I am not Lolita either!! (0.00 / 0)
What so many of the Obama supporters need to get is that women are tired of the disrespect, the dismissive attitude and the lack of equality that we have been dealing with since the beginning of time.

The only thing Obama has done for me is remind me how daily women are still targeted- domestic abuse is still rampant, rape is still happening daily,misogyny is worse than I thought, the exploitation and sex slave trade has risen and men in high places still cheat on their wives, lie and are still accepted by the good ole boys club. I could go on and on. But Obama and the democratic party this time will not get my support unless Hillary is elected at the convention. I cannot support Obama AT ALL.

I too will find another home and since I now know that both Repugs and Dems are basically the same it will be a 3rd party or a worthy humanist movement of some kind.

Brava Lynette!

Outstanding! (0.00 / 0)
I've lived with this inequality for so long I grew blind to it.  The treatment afforded women in this primary campaign opened my eyes.  

We must not be silent.

Break the silence (0.00 / 0)
I agree. We must not be silent. Our time is now to advance and empower ourselves. No one is responsible for us. We each must make that decision to reject the old paradigm, reject the nominee selected for us, reject the party and it's corrupt politics. We can remake the Democratic party to uphold principles or fairness and equality and to stamp out sexism, misogyny, racism, and homophobia wherever it tries to fester.  

Alice left me in Wonderland.  
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OMG! WOW! (0.00 / 0)
Thank you, Lynette - this is a historic declaration.  Brilliant!  PUMA!
somewhat off-topic (0.00 / 0)
I just watch Bob Herbert on the Morning Joe.  Summary: Bob Herbert is a jerk and is insecure to boot.

I expected Joe Scarborough to clean up his clock, but I think even Joe tip-toed around it. If Joe doesn't call shit for what it is, there is no hope.

Bob Herbert talks about the victory tower and the Pisa tower being symbols of something else, b/c they are shown along with Paris and Birtteny. I guess he sees those symbols everywhere.  

Give me a f--ing break.  

Yeah, there are a bunch of rich people like Bob Herbert and Obama who are busy exploiting the race issue for whatever the heck it's worth, and then there is the poor black folks in NOLA. BO, of course, doesn't get to NOLA, except for a photo op with Bill Clinton, and to get himself in the same frame.

Give me a break.

Incidentally, that's my biggest pet peeve against affirmative action policies.  I don't think it helps peple it should, but many times it gets the privilaged few (who fit right in, but just have a different skin tone) an extra bonus.  BTW, same goes for women or any other group.  Meanwhile, class still keeps people of every color and gender way down.  Case in point, neighborhoods in Chicago are still slum, despite having Oprah and Obama there.

I am sorry if you feel I am insensitive, and moderators can feel free to delete this comment.

symbols . . . (0.00 / 0)
I'd say Bob Herbert has quite an imagination.  I didn't see the segment, but I think this says more about him than it does about anything else.
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Honestly, took me (0.00 / 0)
three tries to get Herbert's meaning.  The guy should buy a clue.  
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I think it's fair to put the clip up. (0.00 / 0)
Sorry, Lynette, we are getting carried away!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21...

(cannot embed.  That's the link).

It's quite painful to watch.  They started with Bob's column and never got to the point of the segment, namely Bill Clinton's late interview and BC saying, "But, I am not a racist."

I quote from Bob Herbert, "you tell me why those two phallic symbols are placed right at the beginning of the ad."

It couldn't be that Obama delievered a big speech in front of the Victory Column (which Bob thinks is the Washington monument), no! That's too easy. McCain campaign put it with the images of Paris and Brittney, and it's a phallic symbol.  

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exactly (0.00 / 0)

and it's amazing these news analysts don't even know it was the Victory column! And Herbert writes a column using this symbolism not even knowing that.  Don't they know where Obama was speaking in Germany?

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To be fair, (0.00 / 0)
Joe Scarborough and his co-hosts pointed it out.  But Bob wasn't deterred.  He soldiered on.  
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he barely pointed it out though (0.00 / 0)
 
and stayed quiet while Herbert said it again a few more times.

it wasn't like whoa, hey wait aminute, don't you know what that monument is you're writing about. let's set it straight.  -- and then make Herbert acknowledge it.

in other words, a viewer could have easily missed Scarborough's little question -- and the discussion still dominated w/ Herbert's misinformation.

that was my take on it, but I'd have to watch it again to be sure.

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I also quote: (0.00 / 0)
"the column was about the kind of stuff Barack has to put up with".

I am not kidding.  

Cry me a river, Bob.  You know what is harsh and unacceptable, Bob?  Freezing in Chicago slums in the midst of winter cold.  That's what it means to be black and forsaken.  You want to write a column about that?

I guess not.  It doesn't fit your narrative.  

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Herbert OD'd on Viagra (0.00 / 0)
Scratch that, Cialis. It's past that time to call his doctor.

Sorry to be so ageist Bob.  

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Viagra taken by old men cause men to see and feel (0.00 / 0)
sex everywhere...OY!
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It's time to retire Affirmative Action at least based on race, gender (0.00 / 0)
It makes everybody paranoid and resentful.

Affirmative Action based on income, or on whether you're the first in family to go to college, etc. is probably worthwhile.

Schools naturally will want a diverse student body. They're already noticing how un-diverse Berkeley is, so they are recruiting kids at younger ages and guiding them along the high school route.

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Here (0.00 / 0)
in the great north (can't say great white north/ or snowy north, can I?) I notice that whenever there is a policy of affirmitive action, it's really swell if you are a female offspring of a rich,  well-off family, with some small token of some minority ancestory.  The powers-to-be love that.

Does that do a damn thing for women, minorities and more importantly poor people?? Does it help to make the process fair (ie create opportunities for those who need them?) I don't know, but don't think so.

I think, at least here, the policy is about 70 years too late.  I think it would have been quite bold to promote women to say, be news anchors in the 30's and 40's, and so prove to a whole new generation that anything is possible.  But pioneers (women and blacks) did that on their own, thank you very much.  

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Another point, (0.00 / 0)
I personally think the best way to address problems is to make the process fair, and give opportunities to every child.  That's why I loved Hillary saying that (she always said, so that each child can reach his or her God-given potential).  She gets it, and I loved her for it.

In a poor household, what do you tink has the biggest impact on kids?  Universal healthcare!! At once, you are removing a major source of stress, parents constantly worrying about their own health and that of their kids.  

Yes, sure, governments cannot solve all problems.  A child could have the misfortune of being in an abusive family, or be neglected by the parents.  Government cannot step in every second.  

Hillary understood that a good society is a strong society.  It helps everyone.  

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That theme threaded through all her policies, speeches (0.00 / 0)
"she always said, so that each child can reach his or her God-given potential."

U Healthcare AND early childhood education (pre-K.)

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The every-child theme extended to foreign policy (0.00 / 0)
and was a cohesive statement on human rights. Countries where girls are not allowed to go to school, not every child gets an education, etc.
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this is the same column (0.00 / 0)
in which Herbert says white Americans are obsessed with the idea of black men in physical relation with white women.  It seems to me that Herbert is the one with this obsession!
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yeah, Irony is dead. (0.00 / 0)

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and (0.00 / 0)

I am not an enabler of entitlement -- that's the DNC.

Thank you (0.00 / 0)
I could not agree more!!!
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